Prom season is a fun time to be out in a restaurant. Watching young couples come and go in formal tuxedos and ball gowns while displaying their best behavior, posture, and smiles can be a delightful people-watching experience. It is always nice to see people looking and acting their best. The excitement on the faces of the prom-goers can even be contagious to others at tables nearby.
Yet, all too often, it is easy to forget to put on your best for the most important person in the world: your own spouse! When was the last time you wore a formal gown anywhere? When was the last time you both even bothered to dress up to semi-formal wear before heading out for dinner? Was it before you were married? Or has it just been a really long time? If so, it is time to change that!
Proverbs 31:22 speaks of the virtuous woman clothing herself in, “silk and purple”. Certainly, we are not all to wear silk and purple everywhere everyday, but the point is made that the virtuous woman does put effort into her apparel. Clothing should never gain a higher value than striving to be a virtuous person by thought and action, but presenting ourselves well is part of being virtuous women. The same is true for our husbands striving to impress us with their physiques and apparel.
It is dangerous ground that is being tread when a husband and wife cease to clean and dress to impress one another. The Bible clearly states in 1 Corinthians 7:2, “Nevertheless, to avoid fornication, let every man have his own wife, and let every woman have her own husband.” Yet, this command can be very hard to meet when spouses no longer strive to appear attractive to one another. It’s easy to just grab your purse and go get a hamburger or pizza with your spouse, but is it really exciting like it used to be when you dressed your best to go anywhere with each other? Try following these four tips to reintroduce/maintain excitement in your marriage outings:
- Make Regularly Scheduled Dress-Up Date-Nights. This is open for what each couple prefers. It may be once a week or even once a month. The important part is to make it a regular part of your schedule and stick to it! Ecclesiastes 3 tells us, “To every thing there is a season, and a time to every purpose under the heaven: …a time to heal; … and a time to build up…” So, be sure to schedule the time to heal and build up your marriage.
- Dress UP! You don’t need to wear a formal dress and he a tuxedo each time you go, but you should both wear something noticeably nicer than you would usually wear out. Dress to impress!
- It Doesn’t Have to be Expensive. Remember, the destination does not have to leave you out $100 or more! I’ve seen plenty of prom dates at Macaroni Grill, Olive Garden, and even odd, “hole in the wall” restaurants. Groupon can often help you get to a nicer place for a smaller tag, too! Remember, the excitement is not from the menu. The excitement comes from doing your best to impress each other!
- Be Flexible. Don’t get upset with each other when things don’t go as planned. I’m pretty sure none of us who went to a prom had the perfect evening in which every little thing went exactly as planned. To the contrary, most of us probably were so excited that it made little potential problems easy to ignore. We did not wish to lose the excitement of the evening over relatively trivial matters compared to just spending special time dressed up with the one we, “loved”. How much more so should we be willing to overlook potential problems when we are out with our one most special love: our husband?
No matter your budget or time constraints, setting aside special time to spend dressed up together as husband and wife is essential to a healthy and marvelous Christian marriage.
We have friends who were married for many years before being blessed with children. So, they had the time and budget and ate out at restaurants frequently. Yet, when I asked the wife when they had their last REAL, “date-night” (in which they actually dressed up nicely for one another), she could not remember. After encouraging them to take the time and make the effort for a dress-up date, she came back to me a couple weeks later with a huge smile! 🙂
They had forgotten how much fun and excitement it adds to an evening to both take the time and effort to make themselves the most appealing to one other. It really is important to a healthy marriage for each partner to regularly witness their spouse proving they still want to impress the other. What more fun a manner can this be done in than to dress up and date?!
Do you have a great dress-up date night idea you would like to share? Feel free to comment below!