Happy Valentine’s Day!
Valentine’s Day can be a wonderfully enjoyable or incredibly catastrophic day in many American couple’s lives. Many create specific expectations… that are well realized, only moderately achieved, or simply fail to be met. Others completely forget about the day or do not celebrate it on any year. The history of St. Valentine and the original creation of Valentine’s Day is typically completely left out. If you are interested, you can read or watch a brief summary of St. Valentine at: http://www.catholic.org/saints/saint.php?saint_id=159
The history of St. Valentine’s Day, though, is not the primary focus of this article. Instead, I encourage and challenge couples to go ahead and enjoy the day for what it has become… a day to celebrate our love for our spouses, family, friends, neighbors, and fellow man. However, please be careful not to fill the day with your own expectations, lest your expectations crowd out the many pleasantries God has planned for your day.
One fun way of avoiding the awkward, “who’s planning Valentine’s Day this year?” question, is to incorporate in a little holiday from Japan! In Japan, only women do the giving on Valentine’s Day… wait! … hear me out!… because the men are responsible for reciprocating on March 14th, a day the Japanese call, “White Day”. You can read more interesting details about the day here: http://www.usatoday.com/story/news/world/2016/02/11/japan-valentines-day-white-day-chocolate/80223728/
Be open to a little change of routine this year, and the many benefits that can arise from doing so! My husband, Paul Schmidtke, is a very flexible man when it comes to holidays (fortunately for me, as I am usually the one forgetting all about them …especially anniversaries!). He, also, sees the benefits of being able to alternate days to show love to one another:
- You can’t foil one another’s plans.
- You don’t have to wait a year by taking turns on Valentine’s Day.
- You both get two romantic days each year instead of one!
So, go ahead and break with tradition and give it a shot! And ladies, don’t begrudge, “going first”, as by going first, you set the standard! Men are naturally competitive, so whatever you plan for Valentine’s Day, can only be better on “White Day”!