Effectively Communicating With Your Spouse (Part 1 of 5): Seek God First!

praying hands pictureHave you ever been frustrated with your husband?  Perhaps he did something that hurt your feelings.  Maybe he simply did not do something you expected him to accomplish?  Or did he choose to solve a problem differently than you would have solved it?  Maybe you have a much larger frustration than I have addressed here.  It is time to work it out!

Mild and even severe problems and confusions can be avoided or resolved by following some simple guidelines our Lord offers us in His Word.  Yes, even your unique personal perplexities of marriage are addressed directly in the Bible, if you just look in the right place.

So, lets start at the beginning.  If you are frustrated, don’t put off resolution, NOW is the time to:

1.  Immediately bring it to our Lord in prayer.

2.  Quickly identify and patiently await the ideal time to communicate effectively to your spouse.

3. Communicate kindly and clearly to him.

4. Be willing to compromise.

5. Leave the matter in the past.

This article will address #1: Immediately bringing your frustrations before God in prayer.

This is the first step of five to resolving your difficulties with your husband.  You may presently be thinking that there is no need to bring your frustration before God again, as you have already done so… multiple times.  That’s great!  We need to seek to maintain companionship and an open line of communication with God.  However, now may be the time to add a little more to those first petitions.  Consider the following:

When you  listed your frustrations before God, how did you do it?

Did you come before Him acknowledging his sufficiency is much greater than your problem?  Were you ready to listen for His response? Was your heart open to fully trust Him if His answer was different than you desired?  If He answered you, did you have peace and contentment with His answer?

Or, did you inform God of how you would like Him to solve your frustrating situation because you know your way is best? Possibly, you brought your petition to Him, praying for Him to change the person whom has offended you?  Maybe you even completed the prayer without ever giving Him a few minutes of silence in which He could answer you?  Have you decided that He has not answered you at all, when, in reality, He told you, “No” or “Not yet”?

When you do pray to God with you troubles, try remembering these helpful tips from the Bible:

  • Jesus reminds us in Matthew 28:18 that, “All power is given unto me in  heaven and in earth.”  So, seek your Lord with a heart that is fully willing to trust His ability to understand and properly respond to your situation.
  • Present your situation to God and ask for His wisdom in how to solve the situation.  James 1:5 declares, “If any of you lack wisdom, let him ask of God, that giveth to all men liberally, and upbraideth not; and it shall be given him.” Remember, now, God promises to give you WISDOM.  He does not promise to give you what you want.
  • Wait for God’s answer.  It’s that dreaded “P” word… Patience!  Now is the time to use it.  “Wait on the Lord; be of good courage, and he shall strengthen thine heart: wait, I say, on the Lord,” we are firmly counseled in Psalm 27:14.
  • Be ready to accept responsibility for your share of the frustrating circumstance.  Luke 6:41 asserts to us, “…why beholdest thou the mote that is in thy brother’s eye, but perceivest not the beam that is in thine own eye?”.  Let’s not go to God in prayer asking to have our husband’s changed but prepared to be changed, ourselves.

Next, exhibit your faith in Him and patiently wait for His answer.  God will answer you… in His own perfect time.  And He will grant you the wisdom you require to resolve you frustrations with your husband, that you may return to or become closer to your own Marvelous Christian Marriage.

Coming next Wednesday: “Effectively Communicating With Your Spouse (2 of 5): It’s All About TIMING!”

 

 

 

 

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